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Entries in Plus-Size Brides (2)

Tuesday
Jan102012

{Style Feature} A Plus-Size Guilty Conscience features Savannahred

So I’ve been sitting on this submission for months now.  I haven’t been waiting for the bride to get back to me because it’s not an Unfake Wedding. I wasn’t tapping my foot impatiently for the photographer to return my email or add in extra pictures of the cake. Nope, this was all me.

And sometimes this happens. Things get submitted and we, as blog editors, are sometimes quick to pull the trigger. It clears up our submission queue, gets things off our plate. The work gets “done.” Sometimes though, I let things simmer. Fester. Roll around in my noggin for a while.

I felt like these pictures needed a platform, but I wasn’t sure it was my platform they needed.

But then I got drunk this weekend via Skype with Hindsight Bride, Rogue Bride and Kiss My Tulle. We did a podcast together for the Bridal Kool-Aid Cocktail Hour. I do not pity Christie O. and her now HUGE job of editing that sucker.  We had several technical difficulties as well as many-a-sidebar about weddings, gowns, gossip, all while the tape was rolling. Our anticipated 1-2 hour podcast went on for over FOUR HOURS, all the while we (ok, maybe just me and Hindsight Bride with any sort of seriousness), got our drink on. I’ll wait to share the topic when it’s good to go, but I said something during the podcast that in hindsight, was a little insensitive.

We found during our podcasting that me, Rogue and Hindsight are all about the same build: 5’9-5’10” and relatively fit. When we were discussing our dress shopping experiences, I said that it was pretty easy for me to try on dresses.  It’s not too hard for tall, slim girls to rock a gown, it was simply difficult to find the gown that I liked.

The next day I was fondly recalling the conversation and I felt guilty about that comment. I didn’t really take my audience into consideration and in retrospect, I kind of pissed myself off. There are so many women out there who aren’t tall. There are so many women out there who aren’t a sample size. I can’t image trying to figure out what I would look like while I stood in a gown that was 6 sizes too small. Or 10 sizes too small. I mean, WTF? How do plus size brides even manage the dress buying process without having a complete fucking meltdown?

As I continued to wallow in my guilt, I started thinking about plus size models and my hatred for pre-pubescent, wafer thin models. And then I remembered this submission and knew that I’d been sitting on it for a reason. At first, I thought perhaps I’d be posting it to placate my guilt at my own insensitivity. True dat. Then I thought further and realized that by posting, I’d do a few things:

  1. Offer plus size brides and maids an option for super cute bridesmaid dresses.
  2. Help a fellow, small designer get her name out there.
  3. Attempt to thwart the evils of weight vs. fashion that is incredibly prevalent in our media, wedding blogs included.

So that beings us to the eye-candy of this mysterious post that I’ve been holding out on. It’s a fashion show by plus size designer Anslee Connell of Savannahred from Austin, Texas. The photographer, Jessica Monnich of Jessica Monnich Photography not only took some fun shots, but is a customer as well!

Photography  Jessica Monnich Photography

Dress Designer  Savvanahred

Jewelry Designer  Simmang Design

Venue  Lovely Austin

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I love the throw back 80’s groove mixed with a bit of the pin-up girl look. It’s bright, it’s fun, it’s flattering and inspiring.

It makes me want to head into my own studio (which I’m about to do) to finish up some of my own projects! Thanks so much to Jessica for submitting. My apologies for the delay in responding to the submission, but sometimes things have to knock me up side the head before I find their right home.

Tuesday
Oct182011

Occupy the WIC!

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First and foremost, the shoot for Premier Bride gig went swimmingly yesterday. It was at a local winery and the weather was a surprising 85 degrees and cloudless. More on that later…

So I’ve been scouring the internet these last few days getting all the juicy-juicy on the new gowns from bridal week. First and foremost: Vera Wang has black “wedding gowns.” Um, no. Vera Wang designed some very pretty black dresses and is calling them wedding gowns. Yes,  a bride can wear any damn color she chooses, but can we PLEASE not start calling any ol’ color gown a wedding gown? It’s confusing enough as it is.

*Stepping off soap box.

Anyway, I came across this article on Huffington Post regarding plus sized gowns. Even though the author claimed it was “not another article about how models are too skinny",” it kinda was. But her point was not lost on me. It basically summarized the fact that bridal salons simply aren’t stocking the sizes that plus sized women need when they shop for wedding gowns. I recently saw an episode of “Say Yes to the Dress” (the Atlanta store) where a plus sized woman, clearly with money to spend, could not find a single gown to fit into. The poor thing was in tears. It was NOT her first attempt at finding a dress to try on and you could just see her frustration bubble over.

The author made her points and it was a good article. I scrolled down looking to tweet the article since I found it so interesting and I saw the following comment:

You might be part of the (Ugh) "Wedding Industry" but you obviously are NOT clued into the Fashion Industry. NO ONE wants to see size XXX on their dress, gown, pants, etc. Thin models are shown so women can dream. Bridal, Ready to Wear, Couture, Swim, on and on. We are not proud of our FAT. The fact that these designers make the dresses in plus sizes is enough. We don't need to flaunt our fat. It doesn't matter if you are a size 8 or 18, you do not want it known that your are overweight­. It just makes for a big #FailWhale on the entire process. I am not sample size and am on a constant diet. I will never be a size 2 again. So be it. But I would die if a sales person brought me a size 14 wedding gown and said, "we can take it in" or worse, "they all run small". Who cares what they run? A girl/woman wants to feel like a princess for her wedding and not see a huge white cream puff drifting like a snow storm out of control down the aisle OR Runway. Let the sales people and designers show the tiny gowns, let them measure (discreetl­y) your size and let them order what they must. And for heaven sake, let the girls dream. Size should never enter into the equation. Period.

Oh, this made me so sad. A little mad, but mostly sad. Here’s why:

I am someone who has struggled with body image ever since I realized that I did not look anything like my friends did in their little Dove shorts. Even though I’ve never been by definition overweight, the internal struggle with body image has been debilitating and exhausting.

Having mostly overcome that struggle (though I trip and fall sometimes) it wrenched my heart to read this comment. The fact that she is constantly dieting is a huge red flag to me. The fact that she laments a size 2 makes me additionally sad and is converse to her “size should never enter into the equation” comment.

And do we REALLY care what the tag says? I mean, for crissake the way things are sized today is a JOKE. In my life, I’ve waxed and waned in my weight with the same 10 pounds, generally bouncing around with the same 4-5 pounds on a weekly basis, depending on whether I had frozen veggie burgers or pizza for dinner. Those 10 pounds on a 5’10” frame are only noticeable to me and my naked self. However, I have sizes ranging in my closet from a 2 to a 10 and I would say that 99.78% of those clothes fit me. It all depends on where I shop that determines the size. I have found that the more expensive the clothes the smaller the size I wear, like a 6. In cheap clothes it’s more like an 8. Jeans, before they started sizing them like guys jeans, were ALWAYS a 10. I’ve owned pieces that were a 12 and a 14 before too. The numbered size on a piece of clothing = BULLSHIT.

And the reality is that wedding gowns run small. They do. Period. Will that tiny piece of nylon fabric sewn into the side seam on the inside of your dress REALLY make you feel THAT BAD about yourself? On your wedding day? On any day? If it does, I say start looking inside yourself versus inside a dress.

And you know what? I DO want to see a plus sized model cruising down the runway. I want to know what kinds of dresses flatter a plus sized figure. On one of those “Say Yes to the Dress” episodes I saw a VERY voluptuous woman demand a mermaid style dress. I though to myself, “Oh no. That will not do well at all.” And  on the first very shiny dress, I was right. But she tried on another one in a matte material and it was va-va-voom HOT TO DEATH. I was dead wrong. And even the stylists were all, “Uh. We got that wrong. She picked the right dress.”

So what is the point to this post? Let’s see:

  • I think seeing plus-sized models on the runway is a good thing.
  • The woman who made the comment? I want to talk to you. I want to shake you gently and then hug you. I want you to love who you are. Don’t hate yourself. Stop dieting and start accepting.
  • I want the inspirational world we’ve been talking about so much lately to incorporate some real-lifeness. It doesn’t have to be every time, but more would be nice. I would like to challenge a photographer to submit a styled shoot with the taste level of SMP with a size 22 model. Or how about the model-thin blonde girl with a minimalistic décor set up at the VFW? I challenge you!

Maybe if we all continue to voice our opinions, wants and desires to the WIC, they will someday start to listen. This may be a pipe dream. Me? I still believe in the Power of the People. Maybe we should all step up and instead of occupying Wall Street, we should Occupy 7th Avenue. Or Occupy the WIC. Who’s with me?