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Thursday
Oct272011

Last Will & Testament

OK, so I came home late last night after a rousing night with the ladies from Crave Charlotte. All I had eaten most of the day was a coconut macaroon, so I was digging through the refrigerator looking for an evening snack when The Candyman goes, “Oh! I have something for you!” and he runs off into the other room. I’m thinking to myself, “Oooooooooh! Presents!”

Not so fast, lady.

The Candyman comes back into the kitchen and hands me a thick envelope. I turn it over and there, staring me in the face are the words:

Last Will and Testament

of

The Candyman

I’m all, “WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS????”

And he looks at me all innocent and doe-eyed and is all, “What? It’s my will.” Like it’s no big damn deal at all.

Honestly, I was crushed. CRUSHED, I tell you. I felt a little betrayed and a lot left out of a process I thought we’d be doing together. We’ve recently been dragging our heels on getting our last will and testaments as well as our living wills done. Oh yeah, and life insurance. So we’d talked about it recently. I just thought it was something we’d do together. I thought it was something we HAD to do together since our lives and assets are all mingled and shit. 

I was semi-hysterical for a bit while The Candyman was busy being totally complacent and calm so I said to him, “I’m TOTALLY going to write a blog post about this you know!” Idle threats did nothing to change his demeanor and I was too tired to argue any more, so I let it go (I’m learning to pick my battles).

So this morning, I did a little research on wills and such. Turns out that for a last will and testament, you don’t do the joint thing. You do what’s called reciprocal wills: he leaves me everything and I leave him everything and then we both name other folks too, just in case the powers that be decide to off us simultaneously.

So The Candyman comes downstairs as I’m researching this and I ask him a few questions (which totally annoys him because it’s early and he doesn’t do early). I bring up the living will, which you basically need so that if you trip across some tragedy that turns you into a vegetable, your loved one knows what you want him/her to do. So I ask him, “If you go all vegetable on me, do you want me to pull the plug?”

“Fuck yes, I do. Pull that shit.”

“Me too.”

And there you have it. He did make me feel slightly better by telling me to come down to the office so that I can get my will written up as well. Pffft. Like that’s going to make me feel any better. The big jerk, going off and writing up wills without me.

In all honesty though, it’s good he got the ball rolling. We really do need to have all that stuff spelled out. And so do you. Newlywed status be damned, it’s time to talk about death! Yeehaw!

No, but seriously. Do y’all have that stuff ironed out yet?

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Reader Comments (4)

I am glad you are doing this! We didn't even THINK about it until the Mr. became a pilot. Then there were folks hounding us to get life insurance and wills (they didn't have living wills way back in the 60's, but we have them now).
Another thing to think about once you do it, is to keep them up to date. Family situations may change (i.e. children), and if you move to another state you need stuff from that state.
Not wonderful tasks when you are young and newlywed and think all will be roses forever, but take the advice above and do it. Just sayin' (to quote TSB).

October 27, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterMom

We totally have to do this, but we're waiting to get bills paid down so that we can pay the attorney and tax accountant. It's in the plans.

October 27, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterSarah

Yeah, I'm actually so Type A that I think I started putting these together before we were married. Call it the power of experience - my father had a huge medical crisis last year and I wished *so hard* that he had at least done a POA so we could make decisions for him.

And to Sarah - you can get good basic forms online and fill them in yourself as a stop-gap measure until you get the attorney and tax accoutnant.

October 27, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterNovice Wife

Seriously folks DO NOT use online forms for wills and such, each state has their specific requirements for wills and how to make them valid. Using the online forms pretty much assures you that the only thing your family will inherit is legal troubles with your estate. Plus, you can find some hungry attorney these days that will draft your will on the cheap depending on the complexity of the estate. Trust Me. I'm a Lawyer ; )

October 28, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterThe Candyman

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